HOW TO SELF LOVE

Gold Coast Blogger Jeskaalee

"BE HAPPY NOT BECAUSE EVERYTHING IS GOOD, BUT BECAUSE YOU CAN SEE THE GOOD IN EVERYTHING".


Gold Coast Blogger Jeskaalee

AT TIMES IN OUR LIVES BEING HAPPY CAN SOMETIMES BE A TRICKY TASK DEPENDING ON WHAT IS GOING ON IN OUR WORLD AND WHAT IS AFFECTING OUR MIND & BEING. I KNOW MYSELF, DESPITE NOT WANTING DIFFERENT THINGS TO GET ME DOWN, I CAN LET THINGS AFFECT MY HAPPINESS DEPENDING ON MY CURRENT MOOD OR SURROUNDINGS AND THIS CAN SET ME BACK.

I BELIEVE IT IS TOTALLY NORMAL TO BE AFFECTED BY OUR SURROUNDINGS, PEOPLE & YES EVEN THE WEATHER. WE ALL HAVE SIMILARITIES AND WE ALL HAVE DIFFERENCES AS OUR MINDS ARE ALL DESIGNED DIFFERENTLY AND WE CAN ALL REACT SIMILARLY TO DIFFERENCE SITUATIONS.

SO WHAT I AM TRYING TO SAY IS THAT IT IS OKAY TO FEEL UNHAPPY SOMETIMES, DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP AS IT IS HUMAN NATURE! BUT THE KEY IS REALISING WHY WE ARE FEELING THAT WAY IS ASSESSING THE PROBLEM AND FIXING IT BY COMING TO TERMS WITH IT TO BRING OUR HAPPY BACK!

BRINGING HAPPY BACK! - TODAY I HAVE A FEW TIPS I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE WITH YOU TO HELP BRING YOUR HAPPY BACK!

#1 TALK IT OUT: WE ALL NEED HELP SOMETIMES & IT IS MORE THAN OKAY TO ASK FOR HELP WHETHER IT BE ASKING A FRIEND, YOUR MUM, SOMEONE YOU WORK WITH OR A PROFESSIONAL. GETTING THINGS OFF OUR CHEST & OUT OF OUR MIND IS REALLY HELPFUL AND GETTING ADVICE FROM SOMEONE CAN HELP TO REALISE THAT WHAT IS BOTHERING YOU MAY NOT BE SO BAD OR HELP YOU TO UNDERSTAND WHY YOU ARE FEELING THAT WAY AND HOW TO RESOLVE THOSE FEELINGS.

#2 BE POSITIVE: I KNOW IT IS NOT ALWAYS POSSIBLE TO BE POSITIVE ALL THE TIME BUT IF YOU CHANGE THE WAY YOU LOOK AT SOMETHING THAN YOUR THOUGHTS OF THAT THING WILL CHANGE. TURN YOUR UNHAPPY OR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AROUND AND FOCUS ON THE POSITIVES, THE THINGS YOU ARE THANKFUL/GRATEFUL FOR IN LIFE AND THINK OF A WAY YOU CAN CREATE A POSITIVE OUTLOOK OF THE SITUATION.

#3 DON'T WORRY: WORRYING NEVER, EVER HELPS ANYONE..IT GENERALLY MAKES THINGS FEEL A LOT WORSE THAN THEY MAY BE IN REALITY. REPEAT TO YOURSELF "WHATEVER WILL BE, WILL BE".

#4 BE HEALTHY: WHAT YOU EAT HAS A DIRECT AFFECT ON YOUR MOOD AND ON YOUR ENERGY LEVELSSOME OF US CAN TURN TO EATING BAD FOOD (YEP IVE BEEN THERE!). EATING POORLY CAN MAKE US HAPPY IN THE MOMENT..BUT ITS NOT A LONG TERM THING. THIS THEN LEADS TO FEELING EVEN MORE UNHAPPY BECAUSE WE'VE JUST EATEN BAD FOOD. ALTHOUGH IT'S COMFORT IN THE MOMENT YOU ARE EATING IT, IT WON'T MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER IN THE LONG RUN. EATING WELL MAKES YOU FEEL A LOT BETTER ABOUT YOURSELF MENTALLY NOT JUST PHYSICALLY.

#5 JUMP AROUND: EXERCISING DAILY NOT ONLY HELPS TO PURIFY THE BODY, BUT IT ALSO RELEASES ENDORPHINS THAT ARE GREAT TO PREVENT STRESS, RELIEVE DEPRESSION AND LIFT YOUR MOOD. IF YOU PREFER NOT TO JUMP AROUND AS SUCH TRY A WALK ON THE BEACH IN THE FRESH AIR OR SOME YOGA TO CALM YOUR MIND AND BODY. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO GET YOUR BODY MOVING, DOING WHATEVER EXERCISE WORKS BEST FOR YOU.

#6 SHARE LOVE: REMEMBER WE ALL HAVE OUR OWN STRUGGLES & SOMETIMES HELPING SOMEONE ELSE IN NEED OF SOME LOVE AND CARE CAN ASSIST IN MAKING US FEEL BETTER. GIVE SOMEONE A HUG, LEND AN EAR, HELP A STRANGER OR SHARE A SMILE AND MAKE SOMEONE ELSE'S DAY. IT FEELS REALLY GREAT TO BE DOING SOMETHING FOR OTHERS AND BRINGING JOY TO SOMEONES DAY, EVEN IF ITS ONE PERSON YOU ARE CONTRIBUTING TO.

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LOOK FANTASTIC BEAUTY AWARDS

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Do you like the sound of winning a $1,000 beauty pack to pamper yourself in some self loving, GOOD FOR YOUR SKIN YOU time? I know I do and with some of the most amazing products I have tried and tested I am very excited to be sharing this with you all!

SkinCare Store are hosting The Look Fantastic Beauty Awards, hosted by partners over at LookFantastic. With six categories, they are giving you the opportunity to have your say on which products keep you coming back, time and time again!

It is easy peasy to enter just here by voting for your fave products! Girl you know what they say, you've got to be in it to win it!

Good Luck x


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QUEENSTOWN

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If you haven't been to Queenstown in the summertime you need to add it to your list asap. You want to know why? I believe it is one of the most naturally beautiful places I have ever travelled to. I have visited many parts of Australia, Europe and the UK and don't get me wrong they all have their own uniqueness and beauty but Queenstown in New Zealand, every which way you look it is breathtakingly stunning.

I decided to write this post to tell you all about some of the incredible experiences that we had and share some insight so when you travel there it can be a little guide of places to explore.

Travelling to Queenstown in mid January with my partner James was actually the first time we were seeing each other this year as he travels the world for work (I am still practicing the pretzel to squeeze into his suitcase). I landed in Queenstown around 2:00pm (local time) ahead of James and it felt like midday with sun bright and hot (keep in mind the sun doesn't completely set until around 10:00pm in the Summer). I made my way to our Air BNB about 25mins out of the main town at Jacks Point. On the way out driving past the most remarkable mountains, later to find out the mountains are actually named 'The Remarkables' (whoever came up with that, well done!).

James had caught four flights originally from China to meet me with two bags but left one with his work colleague when he briefly landed in Australia which had his camera gear in it..eek! We ended up snapping all of our images and the below vlog on our iPhones plus his drone. As much as we wanted some SLR shots we felt that the iphone still captured everything we needed, plus the positive was we didn't have to lug a heavy camera around, winning!

Okay I will stop rambling on and let you get to the tips below!


MY TIPS FOR QUEENSTOWN


ACCOM

We decided to stay in an air bnb as we discovered almost everyone in Queenstown rents out their home or a room for visitors to stay. This was much more affordable than staying in a hotel or a hostel believe it or not and we were out exploring most of the time so just needed a bed and bathroom. Staying out of town we needed a hire car and would DEFINITELY recommend getting one for yourself even if you stay in town as Queenstown is quite a small town and there is so, so much more to explore in the surrounding towns and mountains. Plus they don't have Uber and the taxi's can get quite expensive.

COST

Everything but the flight to Queenstown is quite expensive so ensure you save your pennies prior to your trip so you can enjoy this beautiful place to it's fullest. the dollar difference isn't too different from Australia so that is a plus if you're travelling from the land of Aus that is.

EXPLORE

As I said earlier every which way you look in Queenstown is stunning so exploring the town and it's surrounds is a must. Taking a road trip from Queenstown to Glenorchy is the most picturesque drive along lake Wakatipu and I highly recommend it. One thing we didn't get to explore was Milford Sound by plane which I regret, so if you can do that and tell me how amazing it was please do!

FUN

I love extreme sports so zip lining and the Shotover Jetboat ride were a must for us! If you're a little more daring you may want to give bungy jumping a go as there are plenty of spots around that do it. We considered taking the plunge but I felt jumping out a plane was enough for me for now.

DINE

There are endless bars, cafes and gelato stores around town so if you wander around you will come across some cool places. Some that I loved and recommend are yonder cafe for a healthy modern breakfast and world bar for drinks and delicious nachos (Mexican food fiend has her hand up!). We were also recommended to try fergburger which is the most popular burger place in town, we didn't indulge as the line was always out the door but if you have more patience than us it is a must!

WINE

A little out of town you'll find a bunch of wineries all on the same road (sorry I cant remember the name, but google is helpful). We went to two of many and as much as going on wine tours sounded fancy and fun we got a tad bored (each to their own). We packed our own picnic (camembert cheese included..drool), with wine and hired some bikes from Gibbston Valley Winery and rode along the winery tracks. If you do a bike tour ensure you wear comfy riding clothes, sunscreen and are prepared to work up a bit of a sweat.


Have you booked your ticket yet? Do it! 

PS. This isn't an ad or anything of the likes.. i genuinely want you to see this crazy beautiful place for yourself!

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VALUING YOURSELF

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"IF YOU DONT STAND FOR SOMETHING YOU WILL FALL FOR ANYTHING". - MALCOM X


Do YOU struggle to be yourself? Do you find it hard to value yourself? Do you follow the crowd?

Today I want to speak about breaking free from those titles and becoming true to you and valuing yourself for all that you are!

I believe to value yourself and value your beliefs is detrimental in living a life of truth. If we are going through our days trying to please others and only doing or acting the way others think we should act we would be devaluing ourselves, becoming a so-called sheep and not being true to ourself. I believe we all need to learn the best ways to not follow the crowd and not do what we think others want us to do; as that is blocking us from being our true, genuine or honest selves.

Over the years I have built myself up and learnt to stand up for what I believe in and not allow myself to get manipulated into being what someone else believes I should be. This has meant removing myself from certain friendships, relationships and situations in my world. The positive that I have I've always taken away is that doing those things has always been for the better. Despite at the time it was tough I knew it was the right thing to do. I'm all about those gut feelings that twist and turn and niggle me and I know something isn't right when I feel that way. That is usually a sign to me that I need to take a look at the situation and find the best ways for me to move forward from those feelings.

Some important things to remember when valuing yourself and they key tools I have found for myself are:
-  never comparing yourself to someone else
- embrace your mistakes and learn from them
- take opportunities to develop yourself
- never let someone else's view of you define you (that is their projection)
- share your journey with people you trust to let you be yourself and always stick to your dig.

Removing negativity and bad influences isn't always as easy as treating say the flu (if only) but it's not impossible it just takes strength and a willingness to stand up for yourself and what you believe in.

Please note: You are you and there is no one in the the world youer than you (thanks Dr. Zeuss youve always known what's up!!)

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I AM THE CHANGE

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I recently made a very conscious decision to take control of my Anxiety and Depression and I want to speak to you all openly about it. Mental health is something that is still not spoken about openly by so many struggling with it because to some of us it has been engrained as a weakness. I believe that is bullshit (excuse the naughty word). We are all on our individual journeys and the majority of us at some point in our lives will hit some speed bumps that throw us right off track smacking us down on our arses. It can feel really crappy, it can makes us feel useless, horrible, sad, over-think the crap out of stuff and just going around in circles with all that and just end we up in a big fat rut.

This post is about sharing my journey with you in the hopes you may see the light like I have as you are not alone! 

The main thing we need to grasp about mental health is taking control and grabbing life by the you know whats and making it better for ourselves. There is help out there and in so many different forms but the first step is asking for it. Speaking truthfully I have struggled with my mental health for over 10 years..yep that's since high school. I saw a psychologist a few years ago now that gave me some helpful tips and taught me about what I was going through but it didn't completely fix me as such and that helplessness feeling came back just a month or so ago and my world felt like it was falling apart. 

I hit rock bottom with my self esteem and self worth, I didn't love myself and I didn't want to get out of bed in the mornings, I didn't enjoy my days and then I lost and hurt people I loved because I was so angry inside. Something clicked in me that if I don't start to make things better for myself I am just going to continue down a very destructive path which just wasn't me.

I had someone reach out to me about a 30 program.. my initial thoughts were "that's not going to help me". But I had a mull over it for a day and thought if I don't take action and try something new I will continue to feel the way that I felt which freaking sucked.

When I began the I Am The Change (Wake Me Up) Leadership program I was quite reserved, nervous, scared and felt out of my comfort zone.. but to be honest I think that was the best thing and the thing I really needed was just that.. to get out of my comfort zone. It taught me things about myself and what I was capable of and allowed me to get a better understanding of why I feared things and why I felt and did the things that I did/do. Learning about how the mind and body works was incredibly eye opening and I learnt things about my own mind that I never knew I was capable of (to learn is to grow!).

As the program went on I started to come out of my shell (yup just like a turtle) and be more comfortable with myself and the things I was feeling and learning to just feel them. I have started to turn my negative thoughts into positive ones with new ways of viewing things. 

I want to share this program with you all as it has been a life changing experience for me and it has made me feel passion for life again. I wake up in the morning and feel excited to be a part of the day for me and I want you to feel that way too!! You are capable of taking control you only need the courage to ask for help!

If you have any questions about the program please don't hesitate to contact me here!

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BUDGET SUMMER OUTFITS


DUNGAREES ARE BACK

Let us think more 90's cool than Fresh Prince when we think of Dunagrees. Comfort overload and you can style them anyway you want, whether it's super cas or paired with some pumps.


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 H&M  -  ROUND SUNGLASSES  - $12.95

H&M  - ROUND SUNGLASSES - $12.95

 H&M -  STRIPE SHIRT  - $24.99

H&M - STRIPE SHIRT - $24.99

  H&M -  DUNGAREE SHORTS - DENIM  - $39.95

 H&M - DUNGAREE SHORTS - DENIM - $39.95


THE STATEMENT TEE

I have always loved how edgy a statement tee can make an outfit look and again you can create this look for day or night depending on your vibe!


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 H&M -  PRINTED TEE  - $14.99

H&M - PRINTED TEE - $14.99

 H&M -  DENIM SKIRT  - $49.99

H&M - DENIM SKIRT - $49.99

 H&M -  PLATFORM TRAINERS  - $34.95

H&M - PLATFORM TRAINERS - $34.95


THE PLAYSUIT

If you don't own a playsuit in Summer on the Gold Coast what are you doing with your life? I joke I joke but there are just so many cute styles for every shape!


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 H&M -  KHAKI PLAYSUIT  - $39.99

H&M - KHAKI PLAYSUIT - $39.99

 H&M -  TWO STRAND NECKLACE  - $9.99

H&M - TWO STRAND NECKLACE - $9.99

 H&M -  BLACK HAT  - $29.99

H&M - BLACK HAT - $29.99


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