I AM THE CHANGE

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I recently made a very conscious decision to take control of my Anxiety and Depression and I want to speak to you all openly about it. Mental health is something that is still not spoken about openly by so many struggling with it because to some of us it has been engrained as a weakness. I believe that is bullshit (excuse the naughty word). We are all on our individual journeys and the majority of us at some point in our lives will hit some speed bumps that throw us right off track smacking us down on our arses. It can feel really crappy, it can makes us feel useless, horrible, sad, over-think the crap out of stuff and just going around in circles with all that and just end we up in a big fat rut.

This post is about sharing my journey with you in the hopes you may see the light like I have as you are not alone! 

The main thing we need to grasp about mental health is taking control and grabbing life by the you know whats and making it better for ourselves. There is help out there and in so many different forms but the first step is asking for it. Speaking truthfully I have struggled with my mental health for over 10 years..yep that's since high school. I saw a psychologist a few years ago now that gave me some helpful tips and taught me about what I was going through but it didn't completely fix me as such and that helplessness feeling came back just a month or so ago and my world felt like it was falling apart. 

I hit rock bottom with my self esteem and self worth, I didn't love myself and I didn't want to get out of bed in the mornings, I didn't enjoy my days and then I lost and hurt people I loved because I was so angry inside. Something clicked in me that if I don't start to make things better for myself I am just going to continue down a very destructive path which just wasn't me.

I had someone reach out to me about a 30 program.. my initial thoughts were "that's not going to help me". But I had a mull over it for a day and thought if I don't take action and try something new I will continue to feel the way that I felt which freaking sucked.

When I began the I Am The Change (Wake Me Up) Leadership program I was quite reserved, nervous, scared and felt out of my comfort zone.. but to be honest I think that was the best thing and the thing I really needed was just that.. to get out of my comfort zone. It taught me things about myself and what I was capable of and allowed me to get a better understanding of why I feared things and why I felt and did the things that I did/do. Learning about how the mind and body works was incredibly eye opening and I learnt things about my own mind that I never knew I was capable of (to learn is to grow!).

As the program went on I started to come out of my shell (yup just like a turtle) and be more comfortable with myself and the things I was feeling and learning to just feel them. I have started to turn my negative thoughts into positive ones with new ways of viewing things. 

I want to share this program with you all as it has been a life changing experience for me and it has made me feel passion for life again. I wake up in the morning and feel excited to be a part of the day for me and I want you to feel that way too!! You are capable of taking control you only need the courage to ask for help!

If you have any questions about the program please don't hesitate to contact me here!

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BUDGET SUMMER OUTFITS


DUNGAREES ARE BACK

Let us think more 90's cool than Fresh Prince when we think of Dunagrees. Comfort overload and you can style them anyway you want, whether it's super cas or paired with some pumps.


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H&M  - ROUND SUNGLASSES - $12.95

H&M  - ROUND SUNGLASSES - $12.95

H&M - STRIPE SHIRT - $24.99

H&M - STRIPE SHIRT - $24.99

 H&M - DUNGAREE SHORTS - DENIM - $39.95

 H&M - DUNGAREE SHORTS - DENIM - $39.95


THE STATEMENT TEE

I have always loved how edgy a statement tee can make an outfit look and again you can create this look for day or night depending on your vibe!


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H&M - PRINTED TEE - $14.99

H&M - PRINTED TEE - $14.99

H&M - DENIM SKIRT - $49.99

H&M - DENIM SKIRT - $49.99

H&M - PLATFORM TRAINERS - $34.95

H&M - PLATFORM TRAINERS - $34.95


THE PLAYSUIT

If you don't own a playsuit in Summer on the Gold Coast what are you doing with your life? I joke I joke but there are just so many cute styles for every shape!


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H&M - KHAKI PLAYSUIT - $39.99

H&M - KHAKI PLAYSUIT - $39.99

H&M - TWO STRAND NECKLACE - $9.99

H&M - TWO STRAND NECKLACE - $9.99

H&M - BLACK HAT - $29.99

H&M - BLACK HAT - $29.99


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BE PRESENT

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Have you ever found yourself in a social situation out with friends and you are all sitting on your mobile phones not talking? I almost instantly want to put my phone down if this ever happens and make everyone do the same. Or have you ever been having a conversation with someone to realize you're just talking to yourself because they are engulfed by what is happening on their Instagram feed? Have you ever sat down to have a quick look over what is going on with your social media and wasted an hour scrolling pointlessly, only to then maybe feel sorry for yourself for comparing your life to someone elses life.

I am sure these situations and more have happened to you at some stage with either friends, family or partners. I can't sit here writing that I haven't been the one to do some of those above things too, I am guilty. But I can say in the recent months I have taken note of myself doing those things and made sure I am using my phone for the right reasons at the right time.

I want to ensure I am not missing out on beautiful moments by not being present in them but rather try to record or photograph them. So that is why I wanted to share with you some great ideas for becoming more present not only with others but also with yourself.

PHONE FREE CATCH UPS:
When you organise to catch up with friends or your partner try turning off your phone, or sitting them in a pile in the middle of the table and not touching them until you leave. Sit there and talk about your day, listen to what others have to say, enjoy the food your eating and let your senses take in the moment.

LEAVE YOUR PHONE AT HOME:
I practiced this a couple of times when I went to Bali recently. Being such a beautiful place I wanted to photograph things in the places we went but I also didn't want to get too engulfed in trying to capture and share everything as it was happening without enjoying it so I left my phone at home when we went out a couple of times.

GO A WEEKEND WITHOUT SOCIAL MEDIA:
Get outdoors and take in everything you see! Jump in the ocean, go for a run, breathe in deep, hug someone, play with your dog, read a book, laugh until your stomach hurts and be one with the world, yourself and others.

DO AN ACTIVITY WITHOUT TAKING A PHOTO:
We live in a world of Snapchat and Instagram stories which has it's positive and it's negatives. We can easily share our day and adventures with friends and fans. But we can also get caught up in photographing everything without actually just enjoying it. For example the food you eat out, try and enjoy the food for what it is.. delicious, beautifully displayed, nourishing and sometimes naughty.

PRESENCE IS BETTER THAN PRESENTS:
I write about this one as it is nearly Christmas which to me means spending time with family, being thankful and enjoying goooood food.

I hope that if you are reading this and you struggle to be present or someone in your life does that it can help you or them if you pass it on to find the best ways to come back to the real world to just enjoy it and be present in all it's goodness!


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"WHEREVER YOU ARE, BE ALL THERE".
- JIM ELLIOT

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CAFE 2 U

On Wednesday I had the pleasure of heading to the Cafe 2 U & Uber Shape Gym fitness circuit with my best gals. We started the morning with a fun but tough circuit that has my legs feeling oh so sore.. but in a good way!! I love working out with friends..it makes it so much more enjoyable and a great way to socialise and get fit at the same time.

Cafe 2 U just launched their new Protein Shake range and the best word for me to describe them is delicious.. I consumed at least three which is probably way more than I needed to but they tasted so damn good! I love that Cafe 2 U brings the goods to your work place or venue too.. if only they could deliver it to my door front every day I'd be a happy gal! I also wish Nude Sisters would deliver me their raw treats on the daily.. YUM!

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REAL LIFE BEAUTY

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A lot of you may have read a little about my self love journey over the years here on my blog or over on my Instagram or you may be tuning in right now for the very first time. Self love for me is something I work on every day and it can some days be super easy and then some days well, not so much.. depending on what life throws my way!

I think many of us can agree this day and age we can be very much affected by the world of social media and the images thrown at us ranging from insta models, to people in magazines, to people we see on tv and even things said verbally in real life (Yup there is a real world not just the social media one). All of these factors can really sway the way we feel about ourselves if we let it and I can put my hand up and say in the past it really affected me and some days I do still catch myself comparing myself to others.

Comparing your journey or comparing yourself with another can be unhealthy and an unrealistic goal as a lot of what we see in the media and social world is skewed to look "perfect" and altered from reality.. not all, but a lot of it! Now I am not saying you can't look up to people and be inspired by people you see online as I am inspired everyday by different people I follow but it is not my goal to be them, or have their life.. I take cue from their positive vibes, get inspired by their way of life and put that positive energy into my own. For me if I find myself feeling affected by someone I just stop following or remove them from my physical world or I change the way I view them.

This visual generation we are in has taught a lot of us to only focus on the physicals of people rather than focusing on the beauty of personality, the beauty of thought and the beauty of the heart all combined. It might sound corny but I think the world is better with a little corny and a little old school.

Audrey Hepburn nailed beauty on the head with this quote.. "The beauty of a woman is not in her clothes she wears, the future that she carries, or the way she her combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eye, because the doorway to her heart,the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows and the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years".

My message to you today is to embrace your own beauty and work toward becoming the best version of yourself.. I wrote an E-book a while back now but it's free and it may help you if you are struggling with the above situation!


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THE WINTER COAT

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Now living on the Gold Coast some may say we don't exactly get a 'Winter'.. but I don't think that should stop us from wearing Winter inspired clothing. We just need to know how to style them back with our less cozy pieces so we aren't sweating bullets having coffee by the beach in the sun.. Am I right!?

I feel the key to making a coat or trench work in our climate is being able to wear it in different ways whether it be around your waist, over your shoulders or actually putting your arms in (thats the most practical way if you don't want to lost your jacket running across the road..just sayin' from experience!). 

Depending on your own style I have hand picked a bunch of key pieces for this post created by the just launched Noise Maker (or insta @noisemakeraust) at the newly renovated Pacific Fair on the Gold Coast. I am a sucker for a camel trench and I feel no matter the weather or where you live you should always have one on your wardrobe.. it goes with everything!!

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