HOW TO SELF LOVE

Gold Coast Blogger Jeskaalee

"BE HAPPY NOT BECAUSE EVERYTHING IS GOOD, BUT BECAUSE YOU CAN SEE THE GOOD IN EVERYTHING".


Gold Coast Blogger Jeskaalee

AT TIMES IN OUR LIVES BEING HAPPY CAN SOMETIMES BE A TRICKY TASK DEPENDING ON WHAT IS GOING ON IN OUR WORLD AND WHAT IS AFFECTING OUR MIND & BEING. I KNOW MYSELF, DESPITE NOT WANTING DIFFERENT THINGS TO GET ME DOWN, I CAN LET THINGS AFFECT MY HAPPINESS DEPENDING ON MY CURRENT MOOD OR SURROUNDINGS AND THIS CAN SET ME BACK.

I BELIEVE IT IS TOTALLY NORMAL TO BE AFFECTED BY OUR SURROUNDINGS, PEOPLE & YES EVEN THE WEATHER. WE ALL HAVE SIMILARITIES AND WE ALL HAVE DIFFERENCES AS OUR MINDS ARE ALL DESIGNED DIFFERENTLY AND WE CAN ALL REACT SIMILARLY TO DIFFERENCE SITUATIONS.

SO WHAT I AM TRYING TO SAY IS THAT IT IS OKAY TO FEEL UNHAPPY SOMETIMES, DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP AS IT IS HUMAN NATURE! BUT THE KEY IS REALISING WHY WE ARE FEELING THAT WAY IS ASSESSING THE PROBLEM AND FIXING IT BY COMING TO TERMS WITH IT TO BRING OUR HAPPY BACK!

BRINGING HAPPY BACK! - TODAY I HAVE A FEW TIPS I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE WITH YOU TO HELP BRING YOUR HAPPY BACK!

#1 TALK IT OUT: WE ALL NEED HELP SOMETIMES & IT IS MORE THAN OKAY TO ASK FOR HELP WHETHER IT BE ASKING A FRIEND, YOUR MUM, SOMEONE YOU WORK WITH OR A PROFESSIONAL. GETTING THINGS OFF OUR CHEST & OUT OF OUR MIND IS REALLY HELPFUL AND GETTING ADVICE FROM SOMEONE CAN HELP TO REALISE THAT WHAT IS BOTHERING YOU MAY NOT BE SO BAD OR HELP YOU TO UNDERSTAND WHY YOU ARE FEELING THAT WAY AND HOW TO RESOLVE THOSE FEELINGS.

#2 BE POSITIVE: I KNOW IT IS NOT ALWAYS POSSIBLE TO BE POSITIVE ALL THE TIME BUT IF YOU CHANGE THE WAY YOU LOOK AT SOMETHING THAN YOUR THOUGHTS OF THAT THING WILL CHANGE. TURN YOUR UNHAPPY OR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AROUND AND FOCUS ON THE POSITIVES, THE THINGS YOU ARE THANKFUL/GRATEFUL FOR IN LIFE AND THINK OF A WAY YOU CAN CREATE A POSITIVE OUTLOOK OF THE SITUATION.

#3 DON'T WORRY: WORRYING NEVER, EVER HELPS ANYONE..IT GENERALLY MAKES THINGS FEEL A LOT WORSE THAN THEY MAY BE IN REALITY. REPEAT TO YOURSELF "WHATEVER WILL BE, WILL BE".

#4 BE HEALTHY: WHAT YOU EAT HAS A DIRECT AFFECT ON YOUR MOOD AND ON YOUR ENERGY LEVELSSOME OF US CAN TURN TO EATING BAD FOOD (YEP IVE BEEN THERE!). EATING POORLY CAN MAKE US HAPPY IN THE MOMENT..BUT ITS NOT A LONG TERM THING. THIS THEN LEADS TO FEELING EVEN MORE UNHAPPY BECAUSE WE'VE JUST EATEN BAD FOOD. ALTHOUGH IT'S COMFORT IN THE MOMENT YOU ARE EATING IT, IT WON'T MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER IN THE LONG RUN. EATING WELL MAKES YOU FEEL A LOT BETTER ABOUT YOURSELF MENTALLY NOT JUST PHYSICALLY.

#5 JUMP AROUND: EXERCISING DAILY NOT ONLY HELPS TO PURIFY THE BODY, BUT IT ALSO RELEASES ENDORPHINS THAT ARE GREAT TO PREVENT STRESS, RELIEVE DEPRESSION AND LIFT YOUR MOOD. IF YOU PREFER NOT TO JUMP AROUND AS SUCH TRY A WALK ON THE BEACH IN THE FRESH AIR OR SOME YOGA TO CALM YOUR MIND AND BODY. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO GET YOUR BODY MOVING, DOING WHATEVER EXERCISE WORKS BEST FOR YOU.

#6 SHARE LOVE: REMEMBER WE ALL HAVE OUR OWN STRUGGLES & SOMETIMES HELPING SOMEONE ELSE IN NEED OF SOME LOVE AND CARE CAN ASSIST IN MAKING US FEEL BETTER. GIVE SOMEONE A HUG, LEND AN EAR, HELP A STRANGER OR SHARE A SMILE AND MAKE SOMEONE ELSE'S DAY. IT FEELS REALLY GREAT TO BE DOING SOMETHING FOR OTHERS AND BRINGING JOY TO SOMEONES DAY, EVEN IF ITS ONE PERSON YOU ARE CONTRIBUTING TO.

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I AM THE CHANGE

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I recently made a very conscious decision to take control of my Anxiety and Depression and I want to speak to you all openly about it. Mental health is something that is still not spoken about openly by so many struggling with it because to some of us it has been engrained as a weakness. I believe that is bullshit (excuse the naughty word). We are all on our individual journeys and the majority of us at some point in our lives will hit some speed bumps that throw us right off track smacking us down on our arses. It can feel really crappy, it can makes us feel useless, horrible, sad, over-think the crap out of stuff and just going around in circles with all that and just end we up in a big fat rut.

This post is about sharing my journey with you in the hopes you may see the light like I have as you are not alone! 

The main thing we need to grasp about mental health is taking control and grabbing life by the you know whats and making it better for ourselves. There is help out there and in so many different forms but the first step is asking for it. Speaking truthfully I have struggled with my mental health for over 10 years..yep that's since high school. I saw a psychologist a few years ago now that gave me some helpful tips and taught me about what I was going through but it didn't completely fix me as such and that helplessness feeling came back just a month or so ago and my world felt like it was falling apart. 

I hit rock bottom with my self esteem and self worth, I didn't love myself and I didn't want to get out of bed in the mornings, I didn't enjoy my days and then I lost and hurt people I loved because I was so angry inside. Something clicked in me that if I don't start to make things better for myself I am just going to continue down a very destructive path which just wasn't me.

I had someone reach out to me about a 30 program.. my initial thoughts were "that's not going to help me". But I had a mull over it for a day and thought if I don't take action and try something new I will continue to feel the way that I felt which freaking sucked.

When I began the I Am The Change (Wake Me Up) Leadership program I was quite reserved, nervous, scared and felt out of my comfort zone.. but to be honest I think that was the best thing and the thing I really needed was just that.. to get out of my comfort zone. It taught me things about myself and what I was capable of and allowed me to get a better understanding of why I feared things and why I felt and did the things that I did/do. Learning about how the mind and body works was incredibly eye opening and I learnt things about my own mind that I never knew I was capable of (to learn is to grow!).

As the program went on I started to come out of my shell (yup just like a turtle) and be more comfortable with myself and the things I was feeling and learning to just feel them. I have started to turn my negative thoughts into positive ones with new ways of viewing things. 

I want to share this program with you all as it has been a life changing experience for me and it has made me feel passion for life again. I wake up in the morning and feel excited to be a part of the day for me and I want you to feel that way too!! You are capable of taking control you only need the courage to ask for help!

If you have any questions about the program please don't hesitate to contact me here!

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BE PRESENT

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Have you ever found yourself in a social situation out with friends and you are all sitting on your mobile phones not talking? I almost instantly want to put my phone down if this ever happens and make everyone do the same. Or have you ever been having a conversation with someone to realize you're just talking to yourself because they are engulfed by what is happening on their Instagram feed? Have you ever sat down to have a quick look over what is going on with your social media and wasted an hour scrolling pointlessly, only to then maybe feel sorry for yourself for comparing your life to someone elses life.

I am sure these situations and more have happened to you at some stage with either friends, family or partners. I can't sit here writing that I haven't been the one to do some of those above things too, I am guilty. But I can say in the recent months I have taken note of myself doing those things and made sure I am using my phone for the right reasons at the right time.

I want to ensure I am not missing out on beautiful moments by not being present in them but rather try to record or photograph them. So that is why I wanted to share with you some great ideas for becoming more present not only with others but also with yourself.

PHONE FREE CATCH UPS:
When you organise to catch up with friends or your partner try turning off your phone, or sitting them in a pile in the middle of the table and not touching them until you leave. Sit there and talk about your day, listen to what others have to say, enjoy the food your eating and let your senses take in the moment.

LEAVE YOUR PHONE AT HOME:
I practiced this a couple of times when I went to Bali recently. Being such a beautiful place I wanted to photograph things in the places we went but I also didn't want to get too engulfed in trying to capture and share everything as it was happening without enjoying it so I left my phone at home when we went out a couple of times.

GO A WEEKEND WITHOUT SOCIAL MEDIA:
Get outdoors and take in everything you see! Jump in the ocean, go for a run, breathe in deep, hug someone, play with your dog, read a book, laugh until your stomach hurts and be one with the world, yourself and others.

DO AN ACTIVITY WITHOUT TAKING A PHOTO:
We live in a world of Snapchat and Instagram stories which has it's positive and it's negatives. We can easily share our day and adventures with friends and fans. But we can also get caught up in photographing everything without actually just enjoying it. For example the food you eat out, try and enjoy the food for what it is.. delicious, beautifully displayed, nourishing and sometimes naughty.

PRESENCE IS BETTER THAN PRESENTS:
I write about this one as it is nearly Christmas which to me means spending time with family, being thankful and enjoying goooood food.

I hope that if you are reading this and you struggle to be present or someone in your life does that it can help you or them if you pass it on to find the best ways to come back to the real world to just enjoy it and be present in all it's goodness!


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"WHEREVER YOU ARE, BE ALL THERE".
- JIM ELLIOT

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